Or they might go to the opposite end and be people-pleasing and always needing validation to survive. Children need empathy and unconditional love from a parent to thrive without it they can become uncaring of others and become narcissistic themselves. When a parent is unable to show empathy to your concerns, fears, or immediate life issues, it leaves a victim unable to deal with life in many ways. They might support you verbally or emotionally to get through a tough time. Having empathy means someone shows care about what you are going through. When a parent has Narcissistic Personality Disorder their only concern is about taking care of themselves. Narcissistic Parents Lack Empathy For You TRAITS OF NARCISSISTIC PARENTS – MOTHER OR FATHERĪll narcissists feel they are superior and have a false and inflated self-image, but a narcissistic parent flaunts this sense of superiority to their children, creating a kind of competition that is unhealthy and a game that the child will never win. Understanding and making peace with your childhood, your parents and quite possibly your siblings will be a long, hard journey, but eventually the healing and peace will be empowering and set you on a different path.
If you are like me and just thought your family was crazy, you have some learning to do.
Victims do not recognize the childhood behaviors as abuse. I had been raised in a home where my mother was narcissistic, so her behaviors were what I thought were normal behaviors, so much so that I married and dated narcissistic men.
This was the only life I knew, yet it wasn’t until I began my recovery after an abusive marriage and relationship that I stumbled upon the term “narcissistic personality disorder” that the pieces of the puzzle of my life all started to come together. To the public we were by all means the perfect family living the dream, but the reality was, that isn’t how any of us experienced life. On the surface we seemed to have it all: the perfect home, the summer home and the boats. The confusing part was that there was this illusion that even I didn’t know was a deception. I had one crazy mother, a stepfather, and added to the mix was a biological father that left us when I was six. Why can’t we have holiday dinners together? Why does everyone hate each other? Why don’t we play board games, go to movies or vacations together? Why is everyone always fighting? Why am I always the one to hold the family together? I grew up with two sisters. I always knew my family wasn’t like my friends’ families, and I spent a lifetime comparing and questioning. Were you ignored by your parents? Did they pit you against your siblings? Growing up with a narcissistic parent can look many ways, overtly abusive or covertly cruel and invalidating
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